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Here is a link to an article I just had published in an online magazine:

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A Fork in the Road


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In 2005 Mark Pogodzinski had several published short stories under his belt, so he was able to land an agent who helped him find a book publisher. But when they sent the copy of his book back, he found they had changed the ending, and he did not like it. He chose not to sign the contract.

A few years later, after researching the technologies and other aspects of the publishing business, he opened his own company, No Frills Buffalo/Amelia Press. That was in 2011 and since then, he has published thirty books. They have moved well over 10,000 copies.

Not Just a Business, A Way of Life

For Mark, this business grew out of principles and beliefs in what matters. He believes in Community over Corporations. “Everyone should have a chance to be published,” he says, “we’re going to work with you to produce the best book possible.”

To that end, he works with independent contractors to develop the design, cover, publicity, book trailers and everything your book needs to find its market. If you have a book written, he will produce proofs for you to see how your book would look in print, and if you like it you can buy it, if not, it costs you nothing.

He brought his son, who is five months old, with him to our meeting.

Mark and baby

His wife is an amateur photographer who can produce photos if you need them for your book, but essentially, Mark runs the business himself. As far as the books’ production, they are an on-demand press, so everything is on a thumb drive and you produce only as many, and pay for only as many, books as you need. This is far different than the “vanity presses” of the old days, where you had to buy 3500 to 5000 books and then hope you could sell them.

They sell through local independent book stores, as well as larger chains and online retailers, such as Amazon. They work with authors from anywhere and sell all over the world.

If you were to write a book, what would it be about? Post your comments below!

 

Financial Healing Anyone?


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While Christine Mathieu is known as a True Wealth Strategist for Divorced Women, she strikes me as being a Financial Healer. She spent over 20 years as a traditional Financial Advisor. Then, when the financial crisis hit in 2008, she witnessed a profound shift in the focus of her work. Clients, who had been asking her about specific investment options, began talking to her about their emotional response to the events that were unfolding at that time.

Her own work with a Life Coach helped her make the shift necessary to be of service to her clients in their time of need. She became trained and licensed inFinancial Life Planning® to help transition her skills as she plugged in her own personal experiences to develop her signature program, “Financial First Aid for Divorced for Women.”

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Christine went to work setting up her blog www.thatmoneygirl.com, writing her book, “From Wisdom to Wealth” and positioning herself to launch her own business, which she did in 2011. The Mathieu Center for Financial Wholeness in East Aurora NY also has a web site, www.mathieucenter.com

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If you would like to find out what she does and how she does it, she offers free of charge, True Wealth Consultations and talks to groups and organizations! The talk can be adapted to a 30 to 45 minute schedule, depending on the group, and promises to deliver transformational value to everyone who attends.

And who doesn’t need financial healing?

Do you know other business owners who have made similarly powerful shifts? Do you have a story of personal transformation that you would like to share? Are you looking to make a similar shift in your own life? Contact me!

How Do You Revise or Revision Your Life?


%#!$ Happens

Things happen in life. Plans are derailed, people we love pass away or move on, companies downsize.

How do you cope with these things and not let them get you down?

If you are like me, you may not have coped with some of these things well, at all, at times. At other times, you may have thought you coped well, only to find out–facepalm–not so much!

I lost my husband to cancer 11 years ago. At the same time, I lost my career due to unrelated circumstances, and I reluctantly chose to move back home, after some lame attempts to salvage the life I had built up some 150 miles away from the rest of my family of origin.

Sometimes All We Can Do Is Coast–For a While Anyway

I had been working as a freelance writer, homeschooling my kids–well, formally, only my daughter, she was 7 and my son was 5. Unusual circumstances led me to lose my two biggest customers for my fledgling writing writing business at the same time as my husband’s death.

If you have ever experienced mind-numbing grief and ever stared at a blank page trying to figure out what to write, you know it would have been tough enough to keep going, even if my customers had not pulled out just then. Trying to find new writing markets, if you have tried that, well, you see where this is going.

I spent a good year as a automaton, working at a job, but feeling like an empty shell.

Slowly a plan began to form, one that seemed so utterly rational, it had to work. It would be more lucrative than writing and eventually lead to me being able to write whatever I wanted–as soon as I retired.

Another Wave

It was not until recently that I saw the true nature of the error in my “rational” approach. It took a lot of soul searching, re-evaluating, and re-assessing of my entire life up until now, actually. Yes, I had help along the way. I have made a lot of new friends, engaged in extensive personal grief and family counseling.

Real friends call you out on your stuff. They are like good coaches, that way.

My life up until now has prepared me for what I am doing today, writing this blog for you. I have delved into the depths of darkness and seen that it was in my own soul. I shined a light on it, embraced it, owned it, and I have found a new resilience and a passion for living that I could never have imagined in the depths of my grief, or the years of struggle that have transpired between then and now.

You see, I choose to no longer view my life as a struggle. And you can choose the same.

This article inspired me to write for you today: http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2014/01/study-fight-performance-anxiety-by-getting-excited/282886/

And this book has helped me immensely: http://www.amazon.com/Second-Firsts-Live-Laugh-Again-ebook/dp/B00F8KX5AO/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1389202113&sr=1-1&keywords=second+firsts

There are many other people and resources that have helped me reach this point. It is not about not having challenges, it is about feeling powerful enough to take them on, and knowing the joy of overcoming them, and tackling whatever comes next. It is about remembering, you are here for a reason, there is only one of you, and you do not know how much time you have.

Does this post speak to you? Then please, by all means, reply below! I would love to hear from you!

What do you mean?


My blog is called Freedom, Power & Joy. What do I mean by that?

Freedom is something that I have been enthralled with from an early age. I am an American and have had many family members join the military to fight for our freedom and that of others around the world. I have learned that freedom starts with a state of mind, and can have very little to do with the circumstances we find around us.

We create our own freedom by understanding the nature of choice and commitment and how we make those, or fail to make them, every day of our lives. What do we choose to think about our circumstances? How do we frame our worldview? Are we active or passive in our outlook on life?

Power is a word that may have a lot of negative connotations for some people. I choose to look at the positive side of power. Having power over others has never been a motivating force in my life. At a certain point, however, I began to recognize that my aversion to seeking power was taking me to the extreme of making me a “bully magnet” (more on this topic, later). I have learned to own my own power in the situations in which I choose to engage.

Joy. Ah, joy! How do we come to experience joy in our lives? Is it connected to freedom and power? Does it involve choice? In my experience, it definitely does! I choose to be joyful as much of the time as I possibly can manage to do so. I am growing more joyful every day. How much joy are you experiencing in your life? What choices could you make that would help you experience and share more joy in your life?

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