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Are You Sleepworking?


Do you feel like you could do your job in your sleep? Are you bored out of your mind, uninspired and just fed up with the day-to-day drudgery of exchanging your time for a paycheck that never goes far enough?

You are not alone. Millions of people share in your pain. Many dream of owning a business. But do you have what it takes to own and run your own business? Do you know what it takes?

From my years of interviewing entrepreneurs I can tell you, it takes passion, determination, optimism, perseverance, and a lot of creative thinking.

That Four-letter-word

It also takes a willingness to take on something a lot of people don’t like to talk about. It is that dirty word known as RISK.

If you are not willing to accept the risk involved, you will not be able to handle going into business for yourself. You must come to terms with risk, what it means to you and what comes along with it.

Risk is simply the chance that things will not go according to your plan, and you will lose time and money. It is the opposite of security. Security is when you are sure that you will not be wasting time or money, you will be paid and you can count on it. These are both matters of perception.

It’s All Relative

In reality, there is no such thing as security, there is risk everywhere, it is inherent in every moment of life. There is no guarantee that your government will not fail, that the earth will keep turning on its axis, that lightening won’t strike, or you won’t suddenly fall ill.

If you know you had a year to live, would you do anything differently? This is a way of turning your perception of risk on its head. What would security mean in that scenario?

Wake Up

Hopefully we all have a long life ahead of us. Even so, how do we want to spend it? Is there a way to wake up to your work and find new meaning in it, right where you are? Is it possible to add life to your time outside of work that would really be satisfying?

Don’t waste another moment sleepworking. Dream yourself awake by focusing on what is really meaningful to you, and offering your best self each and every moment to the world. You will not regret it.

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How Do You Revise or Revision Your Life?


%#!$ Happens

Things happen in life. Plans are derailed, people we love pass away or move on, companies downsize.

How do you cope with these things and not let them get you down?

If you are like me, you may not have coped with some of these things well, at all, at times. At other times, you may have thought you coped well, only to find out–facepalm–not so much!

I lost my husband to cancer 11 years ago. At the same time, I lost my career due to unrelated circumstances, and I reluctantly chose to move back home, after some lame attempts to salvage the life I had built up some 150 miles away from the rest of my family of origin.

Sometimes All We Can Do Is Coast–For a While Anyway

I had been working as a freelance writer, homeschooling my kids–well, formally, only my daughter, she was 7 and my son was 5. Unusual circumstances led me to lose my two biggest customers for my fledgling writing writing business at the same time as my husband’s death.

If you have ever experienced mind-numbing grief and ever stared at a blank page trying to figure out what to write, you know it would have been tough enough to keep going, even if my customers had not pulled out just then. Trying to find new writing markets, if you have tried that, well, you see where this is going.

I spent a good year as a automaton, working at a job, but feeling like an empty shell.

Slowly a plan began to form, one that seemed so utterly rational, it had to work. It would be more lucrative than writing and eventually lead to me being able to write whatever I wanted–as soon as I retired.

Another Wave

It was not until recently that I saw the true nature of the error in my “rational” approach. It took a lot of soul searching, re-evaluating, and re-assessing of my entire life up until now, actually. Yes, I had help along the way. I have made a lot of new friends, engaged in extensive personal grief and family counseling.

Real friends call you out on your stuff. They are like good coaches, that way.

My life up until now has prepared me for what I am doing today, writing this blog for you. I have delved into the depths of darkness and seen that it was in my own soul. I shined a light on it, embraced it, owned it, and I have found a new resilience and a passion for living that I could never have imagined in the depths of my grief, or the years of struggle that have transpired between then and now.

You see, I choose to no longer view my life as a struggle. And you can choose the same.

This article inspired me to write for you today: http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2014/01/study-fight-performance-anxiety-by-getting-excited/282886/

And this book has helped me immensely: http://www.amazon.com/Second-Firsts-Live-Laugh-Again-ebook/dp/B00F8KX5AO/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1389202113&sr=1-1&keywords=second+firsts

There are many other people and resources that have helped me reach this point. It is not about not having challenges, it is about feeling powerful enough to take them on, and knowing the joy of overcoming them, and tackling whatever comes next. It is about remembering, you are here for a reason, there is only one of you, and you do not know how much time you have.

Does this post speak to you? Then please, by all means, reply below! I would love to hear from you!

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