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It is What You Make of It


Starting this blog is a labor of love for me. My path has had many twists and turns, particularly in the areas of career/work.

Sharing this journey with all of you is a way for me to share healing with all of you. We are all in this world to help each other and heal ourselves.

It takes some time for us to understand struggles others face, because we can get caught up in our own, or we may be blessedly free of them, for a time.

Creatures of Adaptation

It has been said many times that we humans are creatures of habit. But what happens when life throws a monkey wrench into our familiar habit patterns?

Well, first, we may get a little out of joint. But, by and large, we find our way to adapt to the changes, and keep moving. This is hardwired into our beings. It is part of our will to survive.

Unfortunately, we may adapt and form habits that hinder our true expression of ourselves. We may stifle our calling or our passion in an effort to adapt to what we perceive as the limitations or challenges of our current reality.

Creatures of Surpassation

While we may adapt, survive, and plug away, deep within, we feel a need for more. We all want to surpass something. We all have dreams, huge dreams, big enough to rock the world, if only we let them out.

This is also deeply indicative of who we are as humans. This desire to surpass is part of our connection to The Divine. We all feel something when we look up at the stars, or ponder a great storm, the vastness of the ocean, or a lovely mountain range.

Writing is what makes me feel connected to this aspect of myself. It seems to be my calling. I am pushing myself to put it out there with faith that you will connect with me, and with your own inner passion, drive, or calling.

How can I help you connect with your drive to surpass? What have you found that lifts you to new heights? We are in this together, I am cheering you on! If you have a story you would like to share I would love to interview you for my blog! 

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How Do You Revise or Revision Your Life?


%#!$ Happens

Things happen in life. Plans are derailed, people we love pass away or move on, companies downsize.

How do you cope with these things and not let them get you down?

If you are like me, you may not have coped with some of these things well, at all, at times. At other times, you may have thought you coped well, only to find out–facepalm–not so much!

I lost my husband to cancer 11 years ago. At the same time, I lost my career due to unrelated circumstances, and I reluctantly chose to move back home, after some lame attempts to salvage the life I had built up some 150 miles away from the rest of my family of origin.

Sometimes All We Can Do Is Coast–For a While Anyway

I had been working as a freelance writer, homeschooling my kids–well, formally, only my daughter, she was 7 and my son was 5. Unusual circumstances led me to lose my two biggest customers for my fledgling writing writing business at the same time as my husband’s death.

If you have ever experienced mind-numbing grief and ever stared at a blank page trying to figure out what to write, you know it would have been tough enough to keep going, even if my customers had not pulled out just then. Trying to find new writing markets, if you have tried that, well, you see where this is going.

I spent a good year as a automaton, working at a job, but feeling like an empty shell.

Slowly a plan began to form, one that seemed so utterly rational, it had to work. It would be more lucrative than writing and eventually lead to me being able to write whatever I wanted–as soon as I retired.

Another Wave

It was not until recently that I saw the true nature of the error in my “rational” approach. It took a lot of soul searching, re-evaluating, and re-assessing of my entire life up until now, actually. Yes, I had help along the way. I have made a lot of new friends, engaged in extensive personal grief and family counseling.

Real friends call you out on your stuff. They are like good coaches, that way.

My life up until now has prepared me for what I am doing today, writing this blog for you. I have delved into the depths of darkness and seen that it was in my own soul. I shined a light on it, embraced it, owned it, and I have found a new resilience and a passion for living that I could never have imagined in the depths of my grief, or the years of struggle that have transpired between then and now.

You see, I choose to no longer view my life as a struggle. And you can choose the same.

This article inspired me to write for you today: http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2014/01/study-fight-performance-anxiety-by-getting-excited/282886/

And this book has helped me immensely: http://www.amazon.com/Second-Firsts-Live-Laugh-Again-ebook/dp/B00F8KX5AO/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1389202113&sr=1-1&keywords=second+firsts

There are many other people and resources that have helped me reach this point. It is not about not having challenges, it is about feeling powerful enough to take them on, and knowing the joy of overcoming them, and tackling whatever comes next. It is about remembering, you are here for a reason, there is only one of you, and you do not know how much time you have.

Does this post speak to you? Then please, by all means, reply below! I would love to hear from you!

What do you mean?


My blog is called Freedom, Power & Joy. What do I mean by that?

Freedom is something that I have been enthralled with from an early age. I am an American and have had many family members join the military to fight for our freedom and that of others around the world. I have learned that freedom starts with a state of mind, and can have very little to do with the circumstances we find around us.

We create our own freedom by understanding the nature of choice and commitment and how we make those, or fail to make them, every day of our lives. What do we choose to think about our circumstances? How do we frame our worldview? Are we active or passive in our outlook on life?

Power is a word that may have a lot of negative connotations for some people. I choose to look at the positive side of power. Having power over others has never been a motivating force in my life. At a certain point, however, I began to recognize that my aversion to seeking power was taking me to the extreme of making me a “bully magnet” (more on this topic, later). I have learned to own my own power in the situations in which I choose to engage.

Joy. Ah, joy! How do we come to experience joy in our lives? Is it connected to freedom and power? Does it involve choice? In my experience, it definitely does! I choose to be joyful as much of the time as I possibly can manage to do so. I am growing more joyful every day. How much joy are you experiencing in your life? What choices could you make that would help you experience and share more joy in your life?

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